Young Millennials and Faith

Millennials is a term used to define people born in the late 1980's up to about 2000.  They are also known as Generation Y.  According to the Millennial Values Survey, many of the youngest Millennials are leaving their childhood faith and becoming mostly unaffiliated.  Many 18 to 24 year old Americans are rejecting religious doctrine and orthodoxy in general.  About 24 percent do not identify with any religion.
Jess Rainer recently co-authored a book on Millenials and is a member of that generation himself.  Here are some of his thoughts about this topic.  Millennials that enter churches only to find infighting and large amounts of negativity will become frustrated, leave, and avoid the church altogether. Those Millennials with minimal religious convictions will let go of them in order to maintain peace in their own lives.

I mentioned before that I am not the typical Millennial, so I see the church in a different light. The few Millennials that hold strong religious convictions desire to see the church change in a more positive, outward, and deeper theological direction. We are willing to maintain our convictions and work through disagreements in civil way in order greater God's Kingdom.

Those who match my Evangelical convictions only make up around 6 percent of the entire Millennial generation. But the other 94 percent of the our generation are not against the church or organized religion. In fact, using the very broad definition of Christian, 65 percent of the Millennials claimed it as their religious preference. Without using too many more numbers, approximately 85 percent of the Millennials are indifferent to the church.

So how do we reach Millennials with the Gospel?  Rainer's response:  There are two different groups of Millennials that churches need to be aware of: the 85 percent group and the 15 percent group. As mentioned previously, 85 percent of Millennials are not Christians. And its these non-Christian Millennials that are indifferent to the church. Churches need to understand that they are not on the radar of non-Christian Millennials. It will take an intentional effort to reach our generation.

A great place to start to reach non-Christian Millennials is to simply invite them. When asked, these Millennials will attend church with a friend.

Also try to find a way to connect the Millennials to their Christian parents. Millennials are seeking advice and guidance from their parents on a regular basis.

Additionally, leaders must be transparent, humble, and have integrity. It's these leaders that need to demonstrate the deep meaning of following Christ.

And how do we retain the 15% of Millennials who are believers?

The Christian Millennials want to see churches challenge themselves. "Church-as-usual" is no longer effective in retaining Christian Millennials. Churches need to start with deep biblical teaching. Watering down scriptural truth will only cause Christian Millennials to look for another church. There has to be an outward focus as well. Churches need to commit to investing in their communities, love the nations, and direct revenue outwardly. Christian Millennials, like their counterpart, want to see leaders who demonstrate transparency, humility, and integrity.
It's not an easy task to reach the Millennial generation. I am experiencing these difficulties first hand as I reach out to our generation with my church plant. At the same time, I am seeing a small group of younger believers start to desire deeper teaching and community involvement. One of the biggest misconceptions is Millennials are unwilling to commit themselves to the church. It's this small group that is becoming more committed each week. Millennials want to radically commit themselves to something. There is nothing more radical than a true follower of Christ.
I hope we can all commit at the very least to praying for Millennials and then add seeking to build relationships with them.
Blessings,
Dr. Paul

How Great is Our God

Instead of a written blog, I am giving you a link to a pod cast of a message I gave recently at Davisville Church and Calvary Memorial Church.  The message is How Great is Our God and is based in Psalm 139.  I hope it will inspire and inform you.  Here is the link: http://davisvillechurch.podomatic.com/player/web/2012-08-05T16_50_05-07_00

Blessings,
Dr. Paul

Olympic Counter Culture Sexuality

I have been enjoying the Olympics over the last 2 weeks.  It is amazing to watch what these athletes can do.  And they make it look so easy.  One of the Team USA olympians getting a lot of attention is Lori "Lolo" Jones.  She is an accomplished athlete who has won 3 NCAA titles, 11 All-American honors during her time at LSU running track and field.  She competed in the 2008 Olympics in the 100 meter hurdles and did the same this year    just coming short of getting a bronze medal.  There is a lot of drama surrounding her place on the team leading up to her race.  

But what many in the media focused on in the days leading to her competition was not her athletic ability, but her virginity.  Just like Tim Tebow, the media seems amazed when any accomplished, good looking adult choses to remain abstinent.  Both of these athletes have helped to put a new face on abstinence.  And the amazement surrounding their choice reveals how countercultural the biblical view of sexuality really is.  Being a virgin isn't just a fate left for nerdy, unattractive, pathetic people who were raised by puritanical Christian parents.  It is a real choice selected by accomplished adults who are good looking, head turning attractive.  

Loir was interviewed on HBO and said this about her decision to remain abstinent: “It’s just a gift I want to give my husband. But please understand this journey has been hard. There’s virgins out there and I want to let them know that it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. Harder than training for the Olympics. Harder than graduating from college has been to stay a virgin before marriage. I’ve been tempted, I’ve had plenty of opportunities.”  Sounds like this is a woman who discipline, self-control, who takes biblical morality seriously.  Even when it is not an easy path to follow.  And to Lori, a path more difficult than training for the Olympics.  

God created us as sexual beings to enjoy this experience.  God, our creator, also established that the place for sex to be enjoyed is in marriage.  Why?  Is God a cosmic kill joy who gives us a desire and then limits when He says we can have it? No, and let me illustrate it by looking at the Olympics, specifically swimming.  The Olympic committee requires that each swimmer must have a clearly defined lane within which they must compete.  Why?  Imagine that there were no lane lines and when the gun sounded, swimmers jumped in from various locations on the sides and started swimming in any direction.  The result would be chaos and even injury to the swimmers.  The lane lines protect each swimmer from interference and provides the best opportunity for the swimmer to succeed.  

God has done the same thing with sexuality.  He places it in the confines of marriage to protect us from harm and to provide the best place for it to be enjoyed. Marriage protects you from sexually transmitted diseases and the guilt and pain that can come from the "one night stand" and other sexual encounters.  Sex once a couple is marriage provides a context of unconditional love and commitment for the couple.  

So instead of looking at Lori Jones as an idiot, it seems to me that she is a lot wiser than the people who seem bent on making fun of her.  

Blessings,
Dr. Paul  

Team Work

This weekend I have been enjoying some of the Olympics from London.  Watching the Olympics you see a lot about the importance of team work.  Each person doing his or her job, contributing to the effort to win a medal. As the commentator put it about one of the U.S. olympians, "He has the ability to go all the way but he has no thoughts about it now, it is all about the team." Tonight it was the men's free style swimming relay and the women's gymnastics team. And of course, we are rooting for Team USA as we look at these amazing performances!  

Team work is also essential to a family.  This was brought home to me again this weekend.  We had a medical situation with one of the grandparents.  Yes, my wife and I are in the "sandwich generation," dealing with aging parents as we move to the finish line raising our children.  Thankfully everything worked out and God was faithful.  

As I reflect on everything that happened, it was such a blessing to see the members of my family work together as a team.  It is great to know that  your spouse and your kids have your back and are willing to step up and do what needs to be done.  Times of adversity and stress will show what your family is made of.  So often the commentators for the various olympic events talk about how the difference in the athlete's performance comes down to how the person deals with stress.  

So let me ask you a question, how does your family handle adversity? When times get stressful, do you pull together or get pulled apart?  My family is far from perfect, but what helps us pull together is our shared commitment to Jesus.  This gives us a common foundation to build on as we all seek to put Jesus first and not ourselves.  I suggest to you that if your family gets pulled apart during times of difficulty, that your family needs a deeper connection to God before those times arise, so that you are better equipped to deal with them when they happen. 

Blessings,

Dr. Paul

The Latest Dsicovery "Proving" Evolution

Normally I don't comment on matters of science but earlier this week ABC News reported that scientists report discovering the "god particle." The god particle is what gives all matter in the universe its size and shape. They discovered it while smashing atoms together, breaking them down into their sub-atomic components.  When the two protons are smashed together, resulting in a tremendous release of energy and sub-atomic particles, this "god particle" is right there.  And this particle is supposed to be at the heart of the "Big Bang Theory."  The Big Bang Theory postulates that 13.7 billion years ago the universe rapidly expanded to eventually become the world as we know it.  This particle puts the bang into the big bang by supplying the energy needed to drive start the bang.
What does this matter to a pastor and family counselor?  Well, if evolution is true, then the Bible is false.  And if the Bible is false, I need to find a new profession.  Am I concerned that it is time to start checking the help-wanteds?  Not at all.  Here are some questions that evolutionist never seem to answer:
1.  Where did the god particle come from?  According to the laws of thermodynamics, it could come from nothing.  Seems to me you need a creator for that. 
2.  How can anything as intricate, complex, and ordered be the result of an explosion?   When you look at any explosion, it results in disorder, not order.  Oops, there's are those pesky laws of thermodynamics again. 
3.  Here is a new one just for the good people at the labs which discovered the god particle.  How did this explosion in your labs happen in the first place?  Was it a random, change event that took place on its own?  Not hardly, scientists worked for years creating the conditions for this to take place.  In other words, it took intelligent minds with a purpose to actually create this explosion.  Seems to me this, at the very least, supports the theory of intelligent design. 
So I will continue to live very secure that God is, and He is the creator of all that exists. 
Blessings,
Dr. Paul

Supporting Our Troops

USA Today reports on a disturbing new Pentagon finding that the second leading cause of death for our troops deployed in Afghanistan and Iraq is suicide, second only to combat itself.  According to this report, since 2010, more soldiers die from suicide than traffic accidents, heart disease, cancer, homicide and other forms of death.  Suicides are happening at a rate of about 1 per day this year.  There were 154 confirmed or suspected suicides this year through June 3, while 127 soldiers died in Afghanistan.  Last year, 26% of military deaths took place in combat, 20% by suicide, and 17% in traffic accidents.  The percentage of suicide in 2005 was 10% lower compated to today.  Secretary of Defense, Leon Panetta, told Congress that he has directed all of the militray branches to "immediately look at that situation and determine what's behind it, what's causing it, and what we can do to make sure it doesn't happen."  He went on to say that suicide is "one of the most complex and urgent problems" he has to deal with.  This year the army alone is spending $75 million to understand why it is happening and what to do about it. 

In my ministry with Insight Christian Counseling and at Davisville Church I have worked with a number of soldiers who have come back from the front who have struggled with depression and suicide.  Just last week I was contacted by the parents of a 21 year old Marine who just completed his first combat tour.  Thankfully he is not struggling with suicide, but he is very depressed and very anxious compared to how he was prior to going into combat.  What strikes me as I talk to people in the military is how unequipped it is to deal with these issues.  In the USA Today article, Army Col. Carl Castro is quoted as saying, "We were slow to react (at first) because we weren't sure it was an anomoly or it was a real trend.  Then it just takes time to program the money and get the studies up and going.  Everything we do in suicide prevention, there's no evidence it works."  What a striking admission from the man who is leading the army's efforts to find effective forms of treatment and prevention. 

Pray for me as I work with this young Marine, and pray for all of our troops as many of them will be returning to life here in the US or leaving the military and adjusting to civilian life.  There are answers, and they are found in God and His word.  I have seen God transform a depressed, suicidal, angry soldier into a someone who is at peace with himself and a blessing to others. 

Blessings,
Dr. Paul

The Ugly Reality of Sex Trafficing

If you ever take a moment think about places in the world where girls and young women are forced into prostitution, what country comes to mind?  Maybe a country like Thailand, or Cambodia, or some other third world location.  But let's take a look at the United States.  Our government estimates that between 14,000 and 18,000 people are trafficked in the United States each year.  The Department of Justice estimated in 2005 that approximately 150,000 girls and young women had been forced to labor as sex slaves since 2001.  In New York city alone, thousands of women are sold for sex every day.  Assistant District Attorney Lauren Hersh recently indicted 32 gang members who targeted young girls from a Brooklyn playgroud and then used them to recruit their peers from school.  The sex trafficking unit she leads also successfully prosecuted a school mom who was coercing students to sell sex over the internet. 
Child prostitution is a problem the FBI says is getting worse. "The money involved in prostituting children is much higher than just regular prostitution," said FBI agent John Gillies. Morgan Perry, a Christian, is the executive producer of the recently-released documentary entitled Sex and Money. She found that the average age of entry for a prostitute in the United States is 12-years-old, 12 to 13.  So we're looking anywhere from 11 to 17- years-old. Every once in a while, the public hears about human trafficking in the U.S., like the raids that took place in October in 36 cities. Nearly 1,600 agents and officers worked together to bring federal and state charges against 691 suspects. According to the Children at Risk website, globally around 800,000 people are trafficked each year and become victims of commercial sex exploitation and forced labor. Eighty percent of these victims are women and children.

Many people are surprised to hear that human trafficking is such a big problem in the United States.

"We were shocked to discover that the same injustice was happening in our own backyards," the documentary's narrator explained. "Across America, thousands of children are bought and sold for sex each day. Meanwhile, most Americans are completely oblivious to this form of modern- day slavery."

"We've definitely found that it's a greater problem than what we were expecting," Perry said. "We've had a hard time solidifying statistics at first, because research in the United States is not as collected as international statistics so we have found that 100,000 to 300,000 American children are sex slaves in the United States, and that's a very big statistic for us, so that's hit home." The FBI says pimps are advertising more on social networking sites, including Facebook and MySpace, to attract the children.

"The Internet's being used widely now for juvenile prostitution," said one undercover police officer. "The girls of you know, the pimps, the handlers have now taken it off the street where it can be seen and have now concealed it on the Internet."

According to Jimmy Lee, Executive Director of Restore, a New York city based ministry that provides long term shelter for women who have been rescued out of sex trafficking, public education, federal law, and better law enforcement all provide a part of the solution.  Lee says it is primarily the church that needs to step in.  For starters, the church can contend against the cultural influences that make prostitution a viable industry: pornography, poverty, commercializaiton of sex in the media, and break-down of the family.  "As a Christian organization, we are able to offer true hope that other organizations can't provide.  We provide the option to know the Lord," says Lee. 

What can you as an individual do?  Get informed, and support through your prayers and finances ministries that are working to help these women escape from this modern day slavery.  Let your state and national leaders know that you are concerned and raise their awareness of this problem. 

Blessings,

Dr. Paul